Facing Microaggressions at Work? Here’s How to Take the First Step

Microaggressions in the workplace are subtle yet harmful comments or actions that perpetuate stereotypes or biases. For example, being told you’re “so articulate” or “intimidating” can feel like small jabs, but they add up over time. Nearly 60% of women report experiencing microaggressions at work, with the numbers even higher for women of color (LeanIn.org, 2023).

If you’ve faced microaggressions, know that your feelings are valid—and you’re not alone. While it’s not your responsibility to fix workplace biases, there are steps you can take to protect yourself and foster change.

1. Trust Your Feelings

It’s easy to second-guess yourself after experiencing a microaggression, but your reaction is valid. If something feels off, take a moment to process it. I once coached a colleague of mine, who kept brushing off microaggressions as “just jokes.” Over time, she realized how much they impacted her confidence. Acknowledging her feelings was the first step toward gaining the confidence to address them.

Actionable Tip:

When you encounter a microaggression, take a moment to breathe and reflect on what happened. Journaling can also help clarify your thoughts.

2. Address the Issue with Courage

Speaking up can feel intimidating. And, especially for women of color, you may wonder what type of retaliation you might experience for speaking up. But addressing microaggressions calmly and respectfully can lead to better understanding. What do you have to lose? You are already uncomfortable due to the microaggression, so you might as well try to reach a resolution instead of accepting defeat.

Actionable Tip:

Use “I” statements to express how the comment made you feel. For example: “I felt uncomfortable when you said ___. Can we talk about why that might be hurtful?” You can also ask a seemingly innocent question to interrupt the microaggression, such as “what do you mean by that” or “what makes you say that”? Asking the person to clarify can also be a small way to address the issue.

3. Seek Support

You don’t have to navigate this alone. Whether it’s a mentor, HR, or an Employee Resource Group member, finding allies can provide validation and guidance.

Actionable Tip:

Connect with a trusted colleague or mentor to share your experience. They can offer perspective and help you decide on the best course of action. They also can provide their ongoing support as you navigate any follow up steps that is needed.

Next Steps

Microaggressions are tough, but you are tougher. What strategies have helped you handle them? Let’s start a conversation—drop your tips or experiences in the comments. Together, we can create a more inclusive workplace.